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Thursday, July 7, 2011

Canberra, Australia - Jewish community leader tells of sex abuse

Manny Waks























Canberra, Australia - Manny Waks’s behaviour started to change part-way through his schooling at Yeshivah College.

‘‘I wasn’t listening to the teachers and was getting into trouble,’’ Mr Waks says.

Now, more than 20 years later, he believes his disruptive behaviour, his rebellion against his strict Hasidic upbringing, even the fact he is no longer an observant Jew, can potentially be linked to sexual abuse he says he was subjected to at the Orthodox Jewish school in St Kilda East.

Mr Waks claims he was repeatedly molested by a trusted figure of authority at the school who had unfettered access to the young boys.

“This was a man who was in a position of power and authority, who was trusted by the school and who repeatedly took advantage of his position in preying on young boys who looked up to him.” The 35-year-old Canberra public servant says he was also abused by another member of the Chabad community. One of the alleged incidents is said to have occurred inside a synagogue.

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‘‘No wonder I feel so uncomfortable being in a synagogue, because it evokes in my subconscious some of these memories,’’ Mr Waks says.

As a leader in the Jewish community and a human rights advocate, he believes he has a responsibility to speak publicly for the first time about the abuse he says dogged his childhood. He hopes his story will empower and encourage others to speak to the police or seek the help they may require.

‘‘This is about justice and closure, both for myself and other victims,’’ says Mr Waks, a vice-president of the Executive Council of Australian Jewry and president of the ACT Jewish Community, among other senior roles. He wants to hold to account the alleged perpetrators of the crimes and the Yeshivah Centre, which runs the college and which he says betrayed victims by persuading them to remain silent.

Mr Waks also hopes his story will help change the stigma faced by victims of sex abuse. ‘‘I feel I’ve moved on with my life … you can actually move forward while acknowledging that it has inevitably impacted me in a profound way.’‘

While some alleged victims of sex abuse at Yeshivah College have made statements to police, Mr Waks says there are many others, some of whom he knows personally. ‘‘The main reason for the silence is the culture in this segment of the Jewish community to keep these types of issues quiet: it’s my understanding a lot of these victims haven’t even told their wives.’‘

Allegations of sex crimes at the college resurfaced last month, after police wrote to former students urging them to contact Crime Stoppers if they had been assaulted between 1989 and 1993. The claims were mainly linked to former Jewish studies teacher David Kramer, who fled Australia in the early 1990s after parents complained he had sexually abused boys.

Yeshivah College, which did not report the complaints to police, was accused of covering up the scandal. Kramer went on to offend in the US, sodomising a 12-year-old boy while conducting a youth program at a St Louis synagogue. He was jailed in 2008 and is now serving a seven-year prison sentence.

Mr Waks, who was not abused by Kramer, says there are multiple perpetrators and victims involved in the current police probe. He is furious that Yeshivah College did not take action at the time and says it recently tried to ‘‘defend the indefensible’’ by suggesting the alleged abuse related to a time before mandatory reporting.

‘‘This lack of basic action is what has ultimately led to perpetrators reoffending and the tally of victims rising.’‘

And he was distressed by the memories from 20 years ago triggered by the current probe.

Menachem ‘‘Manny’’ Waks and his 16 siblings grew up in an Orthodox Chabad family in St Kilda East. Mr Waks says he only told one friend about the alleged sexual abuse. But rumours soon circulated and boys started to snigger. Midway through year 7 he left mainstream school and focused purely on a religious studies program at Yeshivah College. When he was 18 he joined the Israeli army and rejected his religious upbringing.

Mr Waks made his first statement to police in 1996. He also told Rabbi Yitzchok Dovid Groner, Yeshivah Centre director. In 2000, after returning to Australia, Mr Waks was shocked to see his alleged abuser was still in a position of authority at the Yeshivah Centre.

‘‘I said to Rabbi Groner: ‘How can you give this person access to children?’ Rabbi Groner pleaded with me not to take it further. He said to me that [the alleged perpetrator] was getting help from a psychiatrist. I said: ‘Can you guarantee he will not re-offend?’ Rabbi Groner said no and that’s when I walked out. In my attempt to seek justice and closure I felt like I was working against an entrenched culture and system of covering up these crimes at any cost.’‘

Yeshivah College’s general manager, Nechama Bendet, says Rabbi Groner died in 2008.

‘‘We are therefore not in a position to clarify any communications he is alleged to have made around 15 years ago,’’ she says. ‘‘The college would like … to make it absolutely clear that it supports and encourages any person who alleges sexual abuse to report the matter to the Victoria Police as the college condemns all forms of child abuse.’‘

Since learning of the police inquiry last month, Mr Waks has worked closely with police. He is hopeful of arrests soon.

‘‘This is certainly a move I have been anticipating for many years,’’ he says. ‘‘I do not seek sympathy but rather understanding and support for deciding to bring this important and sensitive issue into the public domain. We need to shatter this insidious code of silence.’’

6 comments:

  1. I can only imagine the intense psychological damage suffered by Mr. Waks. It also sounds as if, though he says that he has moved on with his life, that he is still in desperate need of professional counselling. Although he keeps a high profile in the Jewish community, he obviously has no use for the religious community, which is a shame. I hope he is giving his children some type of Jewish education, although we all know, it would not be a frum education. My thoughts are with this gentleman and I hope that his work with the police will result in some prosecutions.

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  2. Take this story from where it comes, whomever knows the some of the Waks brother's would know what I am talking about, they are troubled guy's who have ruined many lives with financial shenanigans. They are there to promote their self interest. I believe that Manny Waks is no different..

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  3. I was molested by a guy who lived across the street from me in Boro Park. I regret that I was quiet about it when it happened. B"H I don't think it had any long-term consequences for me. But I believe that many lives have been ruined by institutional cover-ups. A child can only judge Judaism by Jews. If the "frum" Jews don't investigate and punish perpetrators, the child will feel abandoned by those who should be protecting him. This is also true for physical abuse. I have friends who blame a certain Pre-1A rebbe we had for putting such a bad taste in there mouth by beating us mercilessly. I will never forget how he smacked me so hard that my face actually bled. His reason: I was fareckled by the fact that my classmate threw-up on mysiddur for the umteenth time. I asked him for another siddur to use because of the smelly, moist vomit chunks on it, so he smacked me up. He said that by asking I was embarrassing my classmate. The truth was that he was a sadistic nut. My first grade rebbe had us line up for petch. Luckily I was good at learning so he hit me softer than others. Chazal say that if you have a violent streak you can be a shoichet. These guys chose being rebbes instead.

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  4. oh gimme a break!!!! He comes from a family of 19 and every kid turned out differently. every kid has to blame going off the derech to something. He was always confused (as others in his fam) so don't go blame it on molestation!

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  5. hey mendy waks .. get a life and get help . i do feel sorry 4 u and the guy who started with u should have his fingers cut off , but dont bad mouth chabad who does so much to help jews and rabbi groner obm , who did so much for yr family .

    just break the guys hands and dont go public , mac das sha shtill

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  6. I personally believe that Manny Waks is a totally amazing person and someone who deserves a great deal of respect and honor. I personally believe that each time Manny walks into a room everyone should stand up as they would any rabbi -- and also give him a round of applause.

    Manny if you read this, I want you to know that your actions is helping to save lives. THANK YOU!

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