Sometimes (and I'm not saying this is the case here), a wife puts up with horrible emotional and/or physical abuse for years. She pretends, because of embarrassment, that she's O.K. Others see through it, but not always. She covers for him and covers for him and covers for him. All to save face. Look around. You'd be surprised at how many marriages like this exist. How do I know? I was in one of them. Why did I get out? A Rav at shul noticed how controlling my husband could be, and very perceptively saw through my "smiles." His wife took me by the hand and led me to a good therapist. Baruch Hashem, I made a tough decision and never looked back. May Eva's death be a wake-up call to all those living with emotional pain. Even if you see it as normal, listen to the tiny voice inside you saying, "something's wrong." HaMakom Yenachem Es HaMishpacha.
I had met Eva A"H" casually when I was ~12-14 years old and we had a few friends in common. I saw her once at a teacher's dinner for many scools and she introduced me to Arthur. I was glad to go down memory lane a bit. This is a huge terrifying wake up call to all wives. If you have financial woes, emotional trauma, etc., try getting help. I extend condolances, may the family be comforted. Hamokem Yinachem ...
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ReplyDeleteSometimes (and I'm not saying this is the case here), a wife puts up with horrible emotional and/or physical abuse for years. She pretends, because of embarrassment, that she's O.K. Others see through it, but not always. She covers for him and covers for him and covers for him. All to save face. Look around. You'd be surprised at how many marriages like this exist. How do I know? I was in one of them. Why did I get out? A Rav at shul noticed how controlling my husband could be, and very perceptively saw through my "smiles." His wife took me by the hand and led me to a good therapist. Baruch Hashem, I made a tough decision and never looked back. May Eva's death be a wake-up call to all those living with emotional pain. Even if you see it as normal, listen to the tiny voice inside you saying, "something's wrong." HaMakom Yenachem Es HaMishpacha.
ReplyDeleteI had met Eva A"H" casually when I was ~12-14 years old and we had a few friends in common. I saw her once at a teacher's dinner for many scools and she introduced me to Arthur. I was glad to go down memory lane a bit. This is a huge terrifying wake up call to all wives. If you have financial woes, emotional trauma, etc., try getting help. I extend condolances, may the family be comforted. Hamokem Yinachem ...
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