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Tuesday, March 6, 2012

Deborah Feldman ‘Unorthodox’ With The Facts?

Deborah Feldman and Barbara walters on the set of The View

Is Deborah Feldman’s “Unorthodox: The Scandalous Rejection of My Hasidic Roots” the publishing world’s latest fraudulent memoir, on par with James Frey’s “A Million Little Pieces?”

Or has the 25-year-old Williamsburg native simply exercised a little poetic license in crafting her tale of growing up Satmar?

The memoir, published less than a month ago by Simon and Schuster, is currently Amazon’s 55th top seller, and its No. 1 top-selling Jewish book. Feldman has appeared on ABC’s “The View,” WNYC’s “Leonard Lopate Show,” in Salon, The New York Post and The Daily News, to name just a few.

The book has also spurred a cottage industry devoted to dispelling its inaccuracies. Soon after the book came out, this newspaper’s Hella Winston found various holes in Feldman’s allegations of a brutal murder and cover-up in the upstate town of Kiryas Joel. (The coroner ruled the death a suicide, The Jewish Week learned.) Meanwhile, an anonymous blog — “Deborah Feldman Exposed” (http://deborah-feldman-exposed.blogspot.com/) — has sprung up to respond to the book’s claims (and Feldman’s comments in interviews) about the Satmar world and the author’s family history and childhood.

Aiding in the research — digging up everything from family photos, Feldman’s old blog posts, school photos and Facebook posts of Feldman’s mother, Shoshana Berkovic — is Shmarya Rosenberg’s “Failed Messiah,” a blog that usually focuses on exposing scandals within the haredi community.

Among the findings: Feldman misstates the timing of various news events within the Satmar community and falsely claims that the first Satmar rebbe’s daughter was pushed down the stairs while pregnant (the synagogue where this supposedly happened was not yet built at the time of her death). Feldman, despite claims that her mother abandoned her as a toddler, was apparently in contact with her mother throughout much of her childhood; her parents divorced considerably later than she indicates; she has a younger sister, now 17, whom she neglects to mention in the book; she attended Bais Yakov on the Lower East Side and another non-Satmar but Orthodox school until sixth grade. (Feldman was allegedly expelled from Bais Yakov for telling classmates about sex, a topic that, according to her memoir, she was completely ignorant about until shortly before her wedding.) In addition, Feldman falsely claims that her mother is listed in the closing credits of the 2001 documentary about gay Orthodox Jews, “Trembling Before G-d.”

Feldman’s defenders, meanwhile, have insisted the author is simply being smeared for criticizing chasidic Jews, and have pointed to the book’s disclaimer, which notes that “certain events have been compressed, consolidated, or reordered to protect the identities of the people involved and ensure continuity of the narrative.”

Feldman, who declined to be interviewed by The Jewish Week for this article, posted a statement last week on her blog (http://www.deborahfeldman.com/blog.php) noting that in the book she has “offered the reader experiences that were most important to me, all the while trying my best to protect the privacy of people I cared about. There are those who object to my decision to omit certain aspects of my life. In response, I can only say that there are matters about which I am not confident I know the whole truth, and I prefer to avoid further speculating on the personal lives of people who have not invited the kind of public scrutiny I am allowing for myself.”

Responding to reports that her mother did not abandon the community until Feldman was a teenager, the author writes: “The idea of community in a religious setting is mutable, and Williamsburg is a big place. My mother may have lived within its bounds, but there was a time early in my life that she no longer adhered rigidly to the Satmar way, and was emphatically not living with me, or raising me. As a child I was often the pawn being pushed around by those fighting a bigger battle, and although my family dynamic didn’t always make sense to me, I knew which adults were in charge, and my mother wasn’t one of them.”

As for the now dispelled claim of murder and cover-up, Feldman downplays it: “I do not state that his father murdered him. I relay a conversation that I had with my husband, showing that my mind went to a certain conclusion and stating that my husband urged me not to jump to conclusions.”

However, in an interview with The Jewish Week shortly before the book’s publication, Feldman was more strident in her accusations about the matter, insisting that her brother-in-law was “the first on the scene” and that the Satmar EMT’s director covered up the matter out of fear that a “full-scale investigation” could affect ongoing lawsuits, including the community’s fight “for the right to have an independent village with funding from the state.”

She also told The Jewish Week that the dead boy’s father is “notorious in the community for being a lunatic.”

In that interview, Feldman also made a variety of other allegations that may raise the eyebrows of her detractors: claiming her ex-husband had an affair with Feldman’s cousin, family members e-mailed her death threats, and that in the Satmar community “the rules are just for show” and “all the young people are either ultra-fanatic or they want out.”

By Julie Wiener - The Jewish Week

10 comments:

  1. Aha keep bashing Debbie she's a liar she's a bitch etc. this attitude will get you nowhere. Why don't you try to tackle the truthful issues instead of discounting the entire book. Is it appropriate for a Rabbi in 2012 to be shiffing a women's panties, or holding them up to a fluorescent lamp to verify if she is kosher for sexual relations based on the color of the stain. Would anyone in their right mind accept this kind of absurd behaviour. Debbie lying, or you jackasses hurt and insulted by her book EXPOSING the ignorant archaic truth of the "Halacha"

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  2. Her book is a best seller, the frummies eat shit. It's so hard to be force fed the truth the old Jewish customs and "halacha" are disgusting.

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  3. UH Ha it's Purim alright "Father of satmar boy caught masturbating, and killed there after has admitted to his crime so he can spend life in prison" Friggin Frummies is this the head line you were expecting to read? Of course there is denial no one is going to admit to, or take resposibility. The best defense is "She's Crazy" it's all fabricated lies. Well folks would like to buy a portable bridge to cross the Atlantic at your convenience? I have got one for sale and it's Glatt Kosher.

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  4. Dozens of open lies were found in the "untrue-unorthodox" book, and have been publicized, and it's not over yet, she is deliberately twisting stories, and creating complete new facts that bever was and never happened, but she's not the first one, in all generations fort he past 3000 years jewish people had bigots and anti semites bringing up all kinds of blood libels, and such type of "unorthodox" books, but Jews have survived it, and most of them had their fate ending like Haman.

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  5. אלא שבכל דור ודור עומדים עלינו לכלותינו והקב"ה מצילינו מידם

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  6. There are stories of the old time converts trying to get jews in trouble in the eyes of the government. G-d desroyed them and he will destroy all deborah feldmans (deborah feldman is not a proper noun) including the authors of the first three comments. Get ready to get destroyed, it's gonna happen in a real painful way.

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  7. Interestingly I live in Williamsburg and know alot about the community despite not being a Hasid, and what she writes in her book doesn't match up with what I know about them. I think she's like the "disgruntled employee", trying to get back at the community that she left. A bunch of rubbish and distorted views in the book.

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  8. What I felt was the biggest disappointment about what I read about the Hasidics was no one seemed to love this country. They seem to me to be living good lives without much harrassment yet they seem ungrateful. I really do not care for separitists at all but Feldon's ex-community is allowed this right and they seem to hate those not in their clan. Sad.

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  9. She's telling the truth, any idiot can see that. Look, I went to a black hat Yeshiva and her experiences mirror my own. I could identify with everything she said in her book. Ultimately my yeshiva was scandalized and closed as the Head Rabbi decided to have an affair with someone in the community....

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  10. After enthusiastically reading several pages of her book, it became increasingly clear that Deborah Feldman was not truthful. She describes going to the bakery in which her father would turn on the equipment. She describes the pastries and breads in length, but fails to elaborate on the smell. Why is this important? Because in order to describe "smell", you would need to have been there. I once went on a field trip to the Wonder Bread factory. The first memory I have is the smell. I talk about the smell to this day. She also talks about her Bubby making Jell-O for her. No kosher, Jewish mother (that I know) would ever buy Jell-O. I was raised kosher and my father/grandmother are from Williamsburg, Brooklyn. Jell-O from a kosher market 20 years ago? I don't think so.

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