Y., the child of a Hareidi family in Jerusaelm, took his own life a few days ago. Family members are pointing fingers at the Yeshivas he attended - and those he didn't.
According to an exclusive Kikar Shabbat report, Y. was kicked out of the reputable Haredi school he attended throughout his childhood five years ago. His father was hospitalized with a serious illness during the same time period. Apparently, the directors and staff of the yeshiva simply ignored the child’s difficult situation at home, and this is when the child’s situation began to deteriorate.
Y.’s parents, however, remained determined to do their best for their son, and they tried to get Y. into another school. During this time period, the father was still hospitalized, but nevertheless he learned with Y. to assist in preparing him for the change of schools.
When the new school informed the family that Y. was accepted, they felt there was finally a ray of sunshine, a new hope. Unfortunately, their happiness was short lived; they learned that a principle of the old school phoned the new one informing them the child is “very problematic,” and the acceptance was reversed to rejection.
At this point, Y.’s condition began to deteriorate more rapidly, and it was not too long until he went off the derech and moved to the north. Despite his change of venue he remained in touch with his parents and the family. Two weeks ago, Y., now 19, called and asked if he can come home for Shabbos. His parents were thrilled, and they all enjoyed the special Shabbos. Y. was singing zmiros and even got up for davening on Shabbos morning.
After davening he asked his father to open the Aron Kodesh, he placed his head inside between the sifrei torah and wept bitterly. Two weeks later, he was gone; he took his own life. The teen left a note, which he had written two days before that Shabbos.
At the levaya, one of the maspedim, Rav Binayahu Shmueli spoke. “Woe is to us, that teachers destroy talmidim and now we see the result. I personally know the deceased and the family. The problem is that today, anyone looking to earn a livelihood becomes a teacher. Today, not every teacher understands education, and it is most unfortunate. Because of the failed system - he fell.”
In a conversation with Kikar Shabbat, a brother is quoted as adding “His rabbonim killed him. I learned in the same school and I know the situation first hand. The teachers killed him. I remember that period very well, when he wanted to come back to school and they did not permit him to. Even if a child is a joker and troublemaker, they must know how to deal with him - not to break him.”
“Perhaps our tragedy will shake the community, awaken someone, and everyone seeking to earn a living will not be hired as a teacher,” he said.